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Definition of False Modesty
Why is it important to understand the concept of false modesty?
So What's The Humble Truth?
We’ve all seen them – or maybe you’re one of them? The super modest, the ultra-humble, the down-player of all things great in life. Now, I’m not one for boasting or bragging, but there comes a point when this so-called modesty becomes something else. False modesty is the act of downplaying one’s self to the point of being fake. Humility by all accounts is a noble trait, however, no matter how humble one may appear, being disingenuous is in many ways harmful and counterproductive.
I personally find those who downplay their achievements in front of the “less fortunate”, whoever that might be, to be insulting. Think about it, it’s basically insinuating that someone else isn’t good enough to hear the truth. This response in contrast to their “lessor” position in life is all but flattering in my “humble” opinion. Let’s say you’re a proud janitor who prides himself on cleaning the hell out of a toilet. Find yourself bragging about your “talents” at a dinner party and no one will bat an eye. A janitor doesn’t run the risk of hurting someone’s feelings by boasting of his talents. The worst that could happen is someone might become disgusted at the thought of a dirty toilet, but overall no harm done.
If you’re wondering what’s the point of dwelling on false modesty I would like to explain why I chose this article in the first place. The answer can be found in history books of all kinds. The bible itself has over 70 references to humility. The origin of the word humility comes from the Latin; humilitas. To exist with humility requires a person to accept being insignificant, unimportant, degraded, debased and humiliated. This is why so many religious texts, where there is an overarching god, are fond of humility.
So What’s The Problem With Practicing Humility?
It’s not about practicing humility, as being humble in and of itself isn’t a problem. For instance, when one has a child it is imperative to humble oneself in order to meet that child’s needs. There is definitely a place, and a very important one, for humility. The issue, however, arises when counterproductive narratives are applied, leaving social constructs that promote unnecessary judgement and control. It’s not uncommon to find people using humility as a tool to control others. This is because it is perhaps one of the most powerful tools for social manipulation. To add insult to injury, when the notion of humility is formed into a weapon of judgement, it creates a pervasive cycle of strife and negativity. If the social construct suggests that a college graduate should refrain from discussing their achievements in public, one slip of the tongue will bring down extreme judgement and social woes. It doesn’t take much to see how destructive this pattern can be.
Some may say “why discuss your achievements aloud anyway, what difference does it make?”. I would then ask that person; “why does it bother you in the first place?”. Perhaps there is something more to one’s reaction to another person’s choice of words. Ultimately, no one can know what goes on in another person’s head, but actions will always expose the truth. Our world has seen enough of the damaging effects of false modesty, and we should all do our part in not contributing towards any future problems that may arise as a result.
Identifying False Modesty
False modesty can be a tricky concept to grasp, both in ourselves and in others. But, with a little bit of know-how, you can begin to easily recognize it and take the necessary steps to address it. Here are some tips I came up with to help with recognizing:
False modesty in yourself and others
Some common questions people ask about False Modesty
Conclusion
To wrap things up I would like to point out a few key points from the article that I believe are very important. This thing known as "False Modesty", that I personal think is very unproductive, is a common behavior that can have a significant impact on our personal and professional lives, as well as our relationships and interactions with others. When we are able to see and understand the impact it can have, we can take steps to address it and be more assertive and genuine in our communication of our accomplishments and abilities.
One of the key takeaways that I would like every reader to to take away from this article is the importance of being honest with ourselves and others about our accomplishments and abilities, without feeling guilty! By being genuine and transparent, we can build stronger relationships, reach our full potential, and be recognized and respected for our talents.
I can't stress how important it is to develop a healthy level of self-confidence and self-esteem. I've always encouraged my employees and students to embrace themselves fully, even when it seems unpopular. In the long run you will be appreciated for your ability to be unapologetically honest than passive and ultimately dishonest. Don't let false modesty hold you back from your full potential.
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