1. You’re Married to Your Career

When the thought about how to rise in your career consumes you more than the thought of marriage, then marriage may not be for you. At least not for right now. You may have all it takes to walk down the aisle, but if you are already married to your career, then committing to marriage may be impossible. And even if you eventually do, it may be doomed from the get-go.

2. You’re Not Yet Over Your Ex

Until you are over your ex, committing to marriage with another partner will be a disaster. It is even worse if you said yes to get back at him. Marriage is a commitment to a person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. So agreeing to marry another person without these commitments present is an enabling environment for a future divorce.

3. You Think You Can Change Your Partner

If you are saying yes to a person with hopes that marriage will change them into the person you want them to be, then think again. Marriage has rarely ever made anybody different character-wise. People don’t get to change like that. So say yes because he is caring, considerate, and kind and not because he will be after you get married.

4. You Don't Trust Your Partner

No relationship can succeed without the parties fully trusting each other. It doesn’t matter if the absence of trust is as a result of your trust issues. Likewise, it doesn’t matter if it’s because your partner has given you reasons not to trust him or her. The basic fact is that the absence of trust in any marriage will set it up for failure.

5. You Doubt if You Are Ready For Marriage

If the idea of spending your life with one person freaks you out, then you may not be ready for marriage. Instead of dismissing your fears about getting married as mere cold feet, it is best to check them now.

Some of these emotions are more deep-seated than the normal agitation that comes with committing to something huge. Defining those emotions will save you and your partner from making the biggest mistake.

6. Getting Married is Just to Please Your Parents

Nothing indeed beats the joy of bringing smiles to the faces of our parents. But you must understand also, that when the chips are down in your marriage, your parents cannot help you. So overcome the naggings and the pressures and make sure you get married only when you are ready and with the right partner.

7. Your Focus is on the Wedding Not the Marriage

Are you more concerned about the wedding flowers that will whittle down the next day?

Or are you more interested in understanding the person you are pledging to spend the rest of your life with? The longest wedding may last for a full day, but a marriage if done right can last for a lifetime. So if your focus is reliving your teenage fantasies about your perfect wedding, then marriage may not be for you. Planning an awesome wedding is great, but it must never take the place of your preparations for marriage.

8. Divorce is Not a Big Deal For You

No matter how rampant divorce is today, it doesn’t disparage the sanctity of marriage. So having a mindset that divorce is a quick alternative when marriage doesn’t work out, is another sign that marriage may not be for you. It was Leslie Petruk , the director of The Stone Center for Counseling & Leadership who said that “If you are entering marriage with the attitude of, 'If things don’t work out, we’ll just get divorced.' This is probably a good indicator that you aren’t ready for the commitment.”

9. You Are Being Pressured into Saying Yes

Be rest assured that any person who will pressure you into marrying them is capable of more things than that. A person who loves you desires your happiness too. Love is not selfish and is always followed by sacrifice. Any person who knows you are not ready to marry them but prefers to pressure you into saying yes doesn’t care about your opinion or desires. Unfortunately, you may only get to see the consequences and extent of this person’s selfishness in marriage.

10. You Don’t Believe in Love or Marriage

If the concept of love and marriage for some reason doesn’t appeal to you, then why get married in the first place. You cannot defend what you don’t believe in. It is better to enjoy your singlehood than get married because your friends are doing so. You will only succeed in hurting your partner and shattering their perception about marriage with your attitude to it.

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