7 Love Tips: How to Regain Respect from Your Wife
Respect in relationships is everything. Losing it could spell the beginning of the end. Salvage your love refuge with these effective love tips.
Table of Contents
- Own Up To Your Mistake(s)
- Clarify Your Intentions Going Forward
- Get Their Buy-in
- Allow Space to Receive & Absorb Your Message
- See That Your Actions Match Your Words
- Be Consistent
- Be Patient
There are any number of reasons you may find themselves needing love tips to regain respect from your wife. Afterall, we’re only human, and while we make mistakes it’s important that we use them as a guide to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. However, in the midst of a mistake, or two, you probably just want to know how to move past this very tense and uncomfortable point.
Before any progress can be made the first thing one must do is take full accountability for their actions, whatever those actions were. Otherwise your attempt at correcting the “problem” will be mudded by a lack of authenticity, and that my friend will get you nowhere.
As a seasoned Life Coach, Manager, Professor, Mentor and most importantly a husband, I have a very good idea how one might “recover” following a poor decision. The love tips below will most certainly put you back on the road to recovery. Now let’s get started!
Own Up To Your Mistake(s)
Owning up to your screwup is probably the most difficult part for most people. This is because you might be afraid that by doing so you will permanently lose your partner’s respect and trust. Actually, this could not be further from the truth.
When you tell someone the truth, even when it hurts, it builds confidence in their ability to trust what you say. This in turn will make them feel more comfortable in your care than otherwise. Reluctance to own up to your mistakes will not only prevent this, but your partner will know. Allow yourself a clean slate by putting it all out there. From there you will have an opportunity to clarify why the mistake happened in the first place. Whenever we behave in ways that go against the expectations of another person, the real pain is in the “unknown”, leaving them with only speculation as to why the mistake happened in the first place. Telling the truth will put them at ease, not to mention benefit you because they will know what changes are necessary going forward.
Clarify Your Intentions Going Forward
After bearing it all, you want to paint a picture for going forward. While your partner will be glad that you told them the truth, the next question in their mind will be “so what’s next?”. If the issue you’re dealing with is spending too little time with them, perhaps discuss exactly how you would like to change that going forward. You could suggest a date night once a week, a mini vacation once a quarter, and so on. The are a number of ways you can go about this. We’ve included a list of ideas to help you in this arena.
Get Their Buy-in
Once you’ve established your intentions going forward, ask them what they think. The purpose here is to get schedules and other obligations aligned so that it’s something you can actually make happen. Maybe one of you will need to move your Saturday night book club sessions to a different day. Remember, it’s all about compromise, and if you love the person you are with you must be flexible.
Allow Space to Receive & Absorb Your Message
Depending on the severity of your situation, history and other factors, be ready to allow adequate space for your partner to receive your message and adjust. When someone has been made to feel a certain way there are changes that take place in the brain. There’s only so much a person can take before their brain has to adjust in order to protect their own sanity. If there is love there, just trust that everything will be fine, and be sure to respect the process and not rush them.
See That Your Actions Match Your Words
Okay, so you were able to convince your partner that things will change going forward. You must understand that you are now in the spotlight. Living up to what you promised is going to be the glue that binds. If you truly intend to change you must do whatever it is that you need to in order to make those changes. If the change you seek requires more of a process, be sure to set those expectations up front.
Be Consistent
Once you’ve established a flow and both sides are on the same page, you want to be consistent. If you don’t keep a schedule/to-do list, this might be a good time to start. Keep track of what things you need to do and when. Even if it feels like a struggle at first, it will definitely become easier. This is because repetitive actions become a habit that your mind and body will eventually align with.
Be Patient
If you’re like me you’ve dated many people throughout your life. One thing that experiencing different relationships has taught me is that no two people are the same. While some of us require a much shorter time to recover from something, others take much longer. Its important that you don’t apply your experiences from a previous relationship with the person you’re with now. Not only is that just wrong, but also counterproductive and won’t help you out on the road to recovery. Your job is to create a supportive and emotionally stable environment. Believe me when I say rushing won’t help AT ALL in achieving that end.
We hope that these love tips were helpful, and we wish you the very best on your journey to improve. Wanting to better understand how to regain respect from your wife is truly a noble thing, and I'm so happy that you stopped by to read our suggestions. One thing that I've learned is that we are ALWAYS learning and should never allow our pride to stand in the way of that, no matter the situation. Good luck!
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