Commitment Issues in Men - 5 Questions That Reveal If Your Boyfriend Is Serious
Commitment issues in men can be frustrating. Indirect questions that can help you determine whether or not your boyfriend is interested in a long-term commitment with you.
5 Questions To Reveal If Your Boyfriend Is Long-Term Serious
- “Where do you see yourself in 3 years?”
- “What’s the difference between a man and a boy when it comes to relationships?”
- “Do you believe that most men prefer to have boy children?”
- “What do you think are the most important qualities in a woman?”
- “Would you agree that most weddings are a waste of money?”
First let me put forth a disclaimer; “NOT EVERY GUY IS THE SAME”… This is very important because it is nearly impossible to represent the thoughts and desires of every man in a single post. Men and commitment issues is nothing new. However, there are some very common things shared across the board when it comes to my fellow gender. No different from women, of course. This isn’t magic, so please don’t be disappointed. It’s more so a shared experience as either female or male beings making our way through this journey called life.
Below are five questions that I’ve thought deep and hard about as a way to indirectly collect the information you seek. It’s not that men try to hide this information, however, being a little less direct is probably the best way to get directly to the meat of things.
“Where do you see yourself in 3 years?”
I like this question because it’s not overbearing, however, it can provide some very important answers. Men are super practical and simple, if you think we haven’t thought long and hard about what the future looks like then you’re sadly mistaken. If his answer includes family, kids, a house or relationship (not in any particular order) then he’s looking for that piece (aka person) to complete his vision. On the flipside, if his answer is focused mainly around “him” then he probably hasn’t put much thought into a life of coexistence with a better half. Of course this doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have serious plans, however, it’s a pretty straight forward question that probably deserves a little follow up from your end. Don’t be afraid to ask him to elaborate in greater detail. Perhaps that’s all it will take.
“What’s the difference between a man and a boy when it comes to relationships?”
This is a very good question as well. Of course you can remix it if you feel that’s necessary, however, don’t lose the underlying gist here. The objective is to determine whether or not your special someone has drawn a distinction between “boyish” behavior compared to that of a man. No different from women, we take inventory as to how far we’ve come in the growth and development department. Believe it or not this is a source of pride for us as well. Maturity comes with hard work, not just age, and therefore when a man gets a taste of it he is surely grateful and won’t be afraid to articulate what separates the lions from the hyenas.
“Do you believe that most men prefer to have boy children?”
Ladies, if you haven’t noticed, practicality is at the core of everything I’ve said thus far. This doesn’t change just because the question of children is added to the equation. It doesn’t matter whether or not the man in your life has a gender preference when it comes to your baby. The point is that he’s taken the time to consider this aspect of his life and furthermore is willing to discuss it with you. A man is only thinking about babies when he’s ready for them, it’s just that simple.
“What do you think are the most important qualities in a woman?”
Just when you thought all men thought about was sex you’re being hit with another bombshell. Men think about a lot of things, especially women, but believe it or not it’s not just the sexual component. No different from you, ladies, men take their own experiences into consideration to form, in their minds, the ideal partner for them. At least this is the case for a man ready for something on the serious side, because he knows what qualities he would like from a woman in a serious relationship. Therefore when you ask this question, any man ready for something on the serious side won’t hesitate to enlighten you.
“Would you agree that most weddings are a waste of money?”
This question may have caught you a little off guard, but stay with me. You’re not really looking for whether or not he wants a million dollar wedding or not, but instead his take on it. Unlike women, when a man thinks about a wedding his mind most likely jumps to the end result, marriage. His first thought probably won’t be about the cake, or your dress, or the fitting between himself and his groomsmen. Again, it’s pretty straight forward, and this question should give you a pretty good idea into how he’s been thinking about marriage.
Good luck on your journey understanding
commitment issues in men. Love is a beautiful thing and two people on the same path is the type of thing dreams are made of. Feel free to remix any of the above questions to fit your situation, just keep in mind that you’re looking to see how he relates to the questions, not simply how he feels about a specific thing.
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