Time doesn't have to work against your relationship. In fact, when done right it makes it better. With consistency and dedication anyone can create a forever-ship full of magic.

Set up romantic dates

Reliving the moment you both met and had your first date can never go wrong. Take a breather, ask your lady or man out on a date and make it fun. Set up the moment right with scented candles, rose petals, dim beautiful lighting, exquisite wine, and a simple dinner. Hold on! You do not have to break your bank to set up a date with your partner. It could be just in your garden inviting nature to meddle in your affair or even the dining arena could work well (oh.. think about it).

• Being Consistent With It: When it comes to date nights you want to make sure that you’re consistent. This means once put in place you should never forget to follow through. 

• Being Intentional With It: By now you know what your special someone enjoys, so be deliberate about how you go about date night. If they love the water you should try as often as you can to do something near water. Whether a pool, lake or ocean, it doesn’t matter, just make it happen. This will not only be something they enjoy, but more importantly will demonstrate your appreciation for things they care about. 

Direct your energy to what you love about your spouse

Is it the way your partner walks or talks? Tell them you appreciate it. The way their hair smells? If so, let them know how much you enjoy catching a whiff of their lushes locks! Don’t nag them about what you know is not their niche. Do not tell them to dress like other men or women. Instead, tell them you love it when they dress differently from other men or women. Simple daily compliments go a long way, especially when directed specifically towards that person.

• Being Consistent With It:  You should make it a habit to pay compliments to your partner. Of course if compliments are not their thing you should use what works for them instead. However, if your partner is like most of us, a nice compliment on a consistent basis can go a long way. Be sure that you are tactful, though. Complimenting someone several times a day is a bit overkill. I wouldn’t even recommend doing it daily. In fact, don’t put a time to it at all. Whenever they do or say something that appeals to you, just let them know. In this way any compliment paid will come across much more genuine. 

• Being Intentional With It: Being intentional in this way is knowing what to say and how to say it to your partner. These are the type of things you should pick up on each and everyday when interacting with that special someone. You know what they like and need to hear, you know where they struggle. You know what lifts them up! Formulate your approach to align and appreciate who they are. 

Reconnect to connect

Appreciate their flaws, get them something nice, kiss them frequently (on the cheeks, the nape of the neck, right behind the ear, on the wrist). Occasionally, ask your partner what habit they feel you should change. Now, do not be rash about telling it to them. Put it in the mildest way possible. You don’t want to drive a wedge between you both with a simple question, do you? Truthfully there’s always something new to learn about your partner. Even when you think you know everything there will be something new and exciting that they’ve recently thought about or discovered. Be that voice of reason and refuge for support. This is only possible by putting forth an effort to connect. 

• Being Consistent With It: Get in the habit of spending quiet time together each week where questions are asked and answered. Consider it a pulse check of sorts. In this way you will never neglect the changing needs of your partner, and most importantly they will come to rely on you as their sounding board and support system.

• Being Intentional With It: Go into each conversation with the desire to establish an even deeper line of trust and appreciation. The worst thing that can happen is forgetting why you are doing it in the first place. It’s not a spy mission to gather intel about your partner, but rather a journey to grow closer and more mindful of each another. 

Be there for them

A simple “do you need me to pick up anything at the grocery store for dinner?” won’t hurt. Will it? Hell no! Share simple home tasks between yourselves. Shuffle the tasks the following week and repeat the process on and on. Ask them about work. Ask them about their concerns, their fears, and worries. 

• Being Consistent With It: We all get busy, but that’s no excuse to stop being there for your partner. Always keep in mind that you’re a team and even the smallest of gestures and efforts can go a long way in alleviating stress off of your partner. Not to mention their appreciation in response to the appreciation you show for them. 

• Being Intentional With It: When you understanding the impact simple gestures can have you are on a winning streak. Armed with this knowledge you will enter each action with a certain energy that can be felt by your significant other. We’ve all been on the receiving end of a “favor” that didn’t come from a pure place. Trust me, if anyone is able to tell how sincere you are it will be your partner. 

Never forget the goodnight kisses

Make it an unbreakable habit between your partner and yourself to give each other light goodnight kisses. The kisses will in every way, ensure there is no pending argument between you both. Definitely, you wouldn’t dare to kiss your partner when they’re angry, will you? Of course you can slide an insincere kiss in there, but why do that? If there is tension in the way of a loving, lighthearted goodnight kiss, then that means you should do your best to sort through it before going to bed. 

• Be Consistent: Whether or not you make it to bed at the same time or not, find your way to them and receive your sugar! That’s what my grandma used to call it. If this isn’t a habit that was established early on just start now! It’s never too late to formulate good habits within your relationship.

• Be Intentional: While a goodnight kiss is never a bad thing, try not to lose the “why” behind the kiss in the first place. Think of it like this, you are acknowledging your partner in a simple yet very intimate way before they drift off to dream land. You are saying to them; “we have conquered another day together and I’m so grateful that you are by my side. I solute you!”. Nothing you do should be empty of meaning, no matter how big or small the act or gesture. 



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