Signs He Wants to Marry You Psychology – 11 Obvious Examples
When he wants you forever it's NOT rocket science if you know what to look for. If you have no idea don't worry, I'm giving up all the good 411 right here!
11 Early Signs He's Considering Marriage with You
- He includes you in his hobbies
- He often uses “WE” or “US”
- He’s comfortable being himself around “YOU”
- He keeps his promises
- He isn’t afraid to tell you he misses you
- He’s intentional
- He values your opinion in decision making
- He’s emotionally available
- He makes “hypothetical” references to the future that include “YOU”
- He playfully asks “hypothetical” questions about future “stuff”
- He talks you up to his family and friends
Jumping from one research article to the next can be fun or just outright exhausting. Everyone seems to have their own opinion about it, and while there is a lot of consistency across most bodies of research, there is still more to consider.
Speaking of research, it’s said that the average person needs 6 months to know whether or not a person is someone they’d want to marry someday. As someone who has dated a good bit, and been married, I personally align with this as a pretty solid average. However, there are many instances where this time can be cut in half or even longer.
Ladies, what’s important to pay attention to is not the time, but rather his actions. If you watch his behavior he will tell you everything you need to know. As a man with plenty of male friends, married and unmarried, I’ve gathered quite a bit of data with regards to this in my own personal life. As a life coach I have also had the opportunity to work with many couples trying to find their way in determining the next best steps for their relationships. I believe that the information here will help you immensely on your quest to better understand the man in your life and where his mind and heart might be regarding YOU.
He includes you in his hobbies
This one thing could possibly serve as all the evidence you need. Ladies, you can rest assured that a man’s hobby is a big part of who he is. It’s something he does to be with himself and seek refuge from all that he doesn’t consider part of his “makeup”. If he chooses to include you, even if only occasionally, it’s a huge gesture that tells you an awful lot. If you find yourself invited to partake in your “lovers” favorite pastime, take advantage of it even if you don’t exactly want to. Remember, if you like this person it’s not about the activity, but rather the core ingredients needed to establish something meaningful and long-term.
He often uses “WE” or “US”
Us men are extremely practical and straight forward. If we say or do something then it’s most likely a black and white representation of where we are regarding that something. If he occasionally uses “WE” or “US”, either in conversation with you or others, that’s a huge indicator that his mind sees you as a fit within his life.
He’s comfortable being himself around “YOU”
This isn’t to confuse him with being comfortable farting in front of you, although eventually he just might be! Not all of us go there, whether on 1 one or day 1,000 (I personally don’t see how that makes for a good bonding experience, but that’s just me!). What I mean is him feeling safe revealing to you his future plans in a way that leaves him open to your feedback. This could be a business idea or any number of things. Another example includes him telling you what makes him emotional. For instance, maybe he tears up when watching a movie of something that overwhelms him with a certain joy, or reminds him of an event from the dark past. Regardless of how he may go about revealing himself to you, when it happens you will know and you will understand that it’s something he’s saved for the refuge you both are building together.
He keeps his promises
Ladies, let me be VERY VERY clear on this one. A man who wants to be with you for the long term will make every effort to keep the promises he makes. Even if he’s unable to fulfill those promises for whatever reason you will be the first to know. Unless he’s dead or in a coma there’s not much else that can justify this not being the case. You must be honest with yourself if the man in your life isn’t holding up his end of the bargain. Bring it up to him first, but not in an angry or accusatory way. It could be as simple as a small misunderstanding, or a clear indication that you should cut your losses and move on. This type of behavior doesn’t get better with time or status, so save yourself the long-term headache.
He isn’t afraid to tell you he misses you
If a man can go long periods of time without acknowledging that he misses you, I would tread carefully until you’re sure of his intentions. If I can be frank, after sex this is where the truth will come out. Before you give into him sexually I really wouldn’t put too much weight on his calls and text messages confessing how much he misses you. Until that factor is out of the way you won’t know if you’re dealing with his representative on a mission or a genuine expression of how he feels. This isn’t to say that a man isn’t serious about it before sex, it’s just good practice to take that into consideration. After you do have sex, however, and it’s happened multiple time, watch closely for his consistency with regards to how he expresses himself to you. This will tell you everything you need to know.
He’s intentional
When a man is intentional about things involving his relationship, it’s because he’s thinking ahead. Men are the definition of simple, ladies, and that isn’t a bad thing, just how we’re wired. Biologically we’ve been design to provide support and protection. However that translates to you, just know one thing, it’s definitely the opposite of complicated. Therefore when he surprises you with something, or presents you with a hypothetical future based question like “where do you see yourself living in 2-3 years”, take it for what it is.
On the flipside, when he doesn’t seem to care much about certain outcomes or future expectations it could mean that he either isn’t ready for whatever reason or doesn’t see you as a match in that way. Ultimately, when a man wants something serious, his actions will demonstrate it in the clearest way possible.
He values your opinion in decision making
A big part of a man seeing you as a future wife is respect. If a man respects you he will seek your opinion when it comes to certain decisions. This is for a couple reasons; 1) He really wants/needs a second opinion and knows that you will give him solid feedback, and 2) He wants to align his actions with what works for the both of you.
He’s emotionally available
There’s no clearer line than this one right here. If a man only wants sex there won’t be any over-the-top emotional expression, trust me. At least not after he’s gotten what he came for (no pun intended). It will be a simple exchange of physical goods and then he’s back to his life until the urge arises once again.
A man who is feeling you, and I mean really feeling you, will open himself up and you will know it. Not only will he tell you in one way or another, consistently, he will demonstrate it through his actions and also pay attention to how you feel. You will know how he feels about you because he will tell you in the most straightforward ways. This of course assuming he’s ready to open up to you. At the end of the day it’s up to you to protect yourself and look out for any obvious red flags.
He makes “hypothetical” references to the future that include “YOU”
“I’d love to take you to Paris one day…”. For most men, inserting a special lady into our future plans during a casual one on one conversation is second nature. Men love constructing things, and that includes ideas and plans surrounding a woman they deem special. He might do this for different reasons, but usually to see how you might respond to it. If he goes there, remember, it’s just “hypothetical”, so don’t be afraid to entertain it.
He playfully asks “hypothetical” questions about future “stuff”
“I think you would make a very cool mom…”. These sort of “hypotheticals” are meant to test the waters and see how you feel about certain things. Not to mention clear indicators that he sees long-term potential in you. Like any hypothetical reference, don’t be afraid to engage him. He will most definitely appreciate it.
He talks you up to his family and friends
Even if you never hear him speaking to family or friends about you, it will be obvious, believe me. When around his family or friends you will get certain questions like; “So I hear you’re from south Florida, what was that like!?”. Or… “I hear you’re good with finances, what do you think about crypto currencies?”. When he includes you in the mix, you will definitely feel included.
Wherever things are for you and your love life, take heed to the obvious and never sell yourself short by ignoring red flags. I hope this helps on your way to forever love and I wish you all the best!
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