Overcoming Hate & Anger From Bullying
This article discusses healing from bullying you may have suffered in your life.
Overcoming Hate & Anger From Bullying
• Talk to someone
• See them as more than just a bully
• Learn to forgive
• Give it some time
• Move Forward
We’ve all been hurt by someone at one point or another. Sometimes it’s the person on the freeway not letting you merge other times it’s a friend or family member telling you lies. There’s a huge difference between in the moment anger and feelings that tend to explode on a larger scale. For your own sanity and health, however, it is always best to try and move forward. Here are 5 tips that may help you in doing so.
Talk to someone
Okay let’s be real for a second, if you find yourself (whether an adult or child) being bullied; you should really be talking to a counselor. If it’s putting you or anybody else in danger the appropriate authorities should also be contacted. Being bullied can have a traumatic and life long effect on a person. For those of us who can’t really picture themselves lying down on a leather chair, it really helps to have friends you can vent to about problems going on in life. Just letting things off your chest can help you feel better almost immediately. You also need to talk to your bully, you need to make sure that you have made it known that you don’t like what they are saying or doing to you. Simply put; you need to defend yourself, because if you won’t who will?
See them as more than just a bully
Occasionally we forget that bullies are people too. We tend to see them as these “evil” beings who want nothing more than to ruin our lives. But maybe, just maybe they’re going through a lot at home as well? Not everyone is capable of handling their emotions and can from time to time take it out on those around us. We allow our anger and hate for the bully blind us, in order for you to move forward with your life you need to learn to forgive. Seeing someone as human and remembering that mistakes happen can help you with that.
Learn to forgive
Forgiving your bully can be a really hard thing to do, especially as an adult. However, it is very important that you do so in order to obtain your own peace. Otherwise, this anger and hate sits there; preying on you and your thoughts. There are many ways you can start, if you’re religious you can pray for them. You can also find a positive trait about them and compliment them. Try to remember that everyone deserves forgiveness. There are also many health benefits to forgiveness, so you aren’t just helping them but yourself as well. You’ll finally be able to find that peace you have been searching for.
Give it some time
They say that time heals all wounds, but how long is enough? You don’t want to wait too long to forgive someone for the harm they’ve done; but sometimes you can’t bring yourself to approach them. I would say that time is fluid, what may work for one person might not work for the next. Same goes for time, it might take a month for one to forgive and years for another. Once you forgive them however, you will almost instantly feel a weight lift from your shoulders. You no longer have to expend energy thinking about something that happened in the past.
Move Forward
Usually, the past is just that, the past. Life goes on, people come and go. Same goes for the people who had a big part in forming who you are. There will always be people who have something negative to say. You just have to brush them off and move forward with your life; because you can’t go backwards. Don’t let something that happened years ago have a hold on who you are today.
The biggest takeaway from this is being able to forgive someone in order to find your own peace and happiness. Don’t let others dictate and control your life. Don’t hand your power over to anybody else. And don’t let anyone bully you.
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